“They made me, they decided, they excluded me” – do you ever use this language about your colleagues at work, in your head, if not out loud? Recently a friend asked me “So how do you stop being a victim?”.This was after a long talk about her experiences with her family over the Christmas period, where family patterns had been…
“My mother is a sociopath”. ” You are either a slave or an enemy.” These comments come from an article with Tamara Mellon in The Times magazine, 19th October this year. What has this got to do with me? Even worse, why did these comments resonate? (and that’s me in the role of the mother I’m talking about, not Tamara…
My two boys and me are avid watchers Strictly Come Dancing. They are 16 and 13 and it is one of the few things we watch on TV together. On Saturday night, my husband cooks or we have a takeaway, and eat off trays in front of the TV. We like to break our own rules from time to time…
For the first time in my adult life, I am, by choice, wearing a poppy for Remembrance Sunday. It is a red poppy, with a green leaf behind it. When I was at school, only the teachers got the green leaf, the rest of us just a red poppy! This is just one indicator of how things have moved on!!
Recently I attended an assessment day, as part of finding out more about becoming an associate of a leadership development company. I gave a presentation on “Developing a strengths based culture to improve performance”. It felt very me, innovative, leading edge, experimental, not yet quite proven, at least not on any large scale basis that I am aware of, yet…
I have been feeling a bit of a fraud with strengths recently. Another way of putting that would be to say that I have been doing some deep learning!! The lightbulb was when I was reading Brenee Brown’s book, Daring Greatly, and the section on perfectionism. About how unhelpful it is, (I knew that already!) but more importantly, she offered…